What's The Point Of Easter?

What's the point of Easter? 

I'm an adult now so why should I still honor Easter? I don't have a child or lots of children around. Colorfully dipped eggs, giant white bunnies, deadly egg hunts, wrapped easter baskets_none of that appeals to me anymore (unless there's $20 in each egg). I don't see the point in hassling around with cheesy bright decorations of pink eggs, smiling rabbits, and all that other Easter galore. So what's the point if Easter only appeals to children? 

A few years ago a revelation hit me, literally. It was close to Easter, and I was jogging about, questioning myself about the point of such a ridiculous cheesy holiday. Then it hit me. Literally. A giant mass of white goo (we won't talk about it) hit me right on the forehead! It was as if the heavens opened up and and smacked me. 

In that moment of pure embarrassment and disgust, God spoke to me. What He had to say, I never forgot. He told me, in simple language, that Easter wasn't for me, or for children. It was for Jesus. 

It's simply Jesus. The simplicity and beauty of His sacrifice and resurrection to reach us, speak to us, and save us. 

Eggs, baskets, bunnies, even the name Easter have NOTHING to do with the reason for our Resurrection Sunday. It's the pure love of God. His desire for us for oneness with Him. He sent His son Jesus to sacrifice himself so the veil would be torn. Nothing can now separate us from our Creator, our Universe, our God. That is the reason for the season. 

Layering 101: How To Layer Necklaces Like A Pro

Layering 101: How To Layer Necklaces Like a Pro 3/19/2017 0 Comments   ​ If you are an accessory kind of gal then you will be just as ecstatic about this spring trend as I am. I mean who wouldn’t! Layered necklaces, like, come on! Not only is it original but it’s super creative and fun to wear. It takes your average necklaces to an out of this galaxy level. Now I bet you are wondering (I sure was!) how in the world do I wear layered necklaces! Do I buy individual necklaces, do I buy them in a set, how do I layer them, how can I wear it? Ladies, calm down, I will answer all these questions for you right here in three little steps. Step 1: First necklace This is probably the simplest of the steps. All you need is to first put on one simple, dainty necklace. Shorter the better. Even a choker would work. You can use any type of metal or color. It's all about your taste. I prefer to use a gold bar necklace for my first necklace. Step 2: Second necklace Now it's time for the second necklace. All you need is to find another necklace, preferably one that compliments the first, that is an inch or two longer than the first necklace. I will use a colorful druzy necklace for a pop of color and elegance. Again, your second necklace can be any color or metal, as long as it is spaced out well and compliments the first. Step 3: Third necklace They say three times is the charm, and I whole heartily agree. The third necklace should be even longer than the second necklace. Again, think of spacing. Now I am going to use a stone necklace for my third. It compliments the first two very well. You can play around and use heavy stone necklaces or still keep to the simple dainty chains. There you have it! The fun thing about layering is there are no rules. Layer chunky, dainty, pearls, rhinestones, or whatever! Play around and have fun.  Just know how to space it well, and it's best to wear a low V-neckline or off shoulder top to accentuate the neck and bring attention to your necklaces. Not a fan of showing off your shoulders or too much skin, then a high mock neck top or scoop neckline would even work.   Want another secret on how to layer necklaces super easy? Buy them altogether. That's right! You can actually buy necklaces that are already layered together. Easy right Overall, have fun and you do you!

Tabitha Cole I guess you could say i'm another typical post graduate student that decided to not use my degree and instead focus on my love__Fashion! Archives March 2017  Categories All  RSS Feed

Do You Truly Love Yourself?

Do you love yourself? I mean do you TRULY love yourself? It’s easy to say yes, but when you start to really think about it do you value and respect yourself the way you deserve to be respected and valued?

If you answer no then be proud! 

Say what! 

Yeah be proud because it takes real guts to admit you don’t love yourself the way you should. In fact, admitting the hard truth to yourself is the first step in overcoming a problem, and not loving yourself is a problem. The next big question is how do you know you aren’t denying the truth. 

Well ask yourself these questions. Do you apologize for every little thing you do, feel guilty when you do something for yourself, think about yourself in a negative manner, and let others speak over you and push you around? 

You don’t have to answer these out loud, but truly reflect on your behavior and thought process about yourself. If you find it’s in an negative manner then you have a problem.

What do you do now? Well, now you turn your thought process and behavior around to reflect that of true love. 

It’s time to fall in love again but with yourself! 

Why? Because you are the perfect existence of everything that has ever been created. Nothing is random or coincidental. You exist because you were meant to exist! If that doesn’t blow your mind then I don’t know what will! 

You deserve all that is good and worthy because you are worthy. It doesn’t matter if you are working fast food, living in the slums, or even sleeping in a mansion. You are you. Perfect, unique, one of a kind, and lovable. 

When falling in love with yourself you need to remind yourself of this; people are cruel.  But you are NOT the reason they are cruel. People will hate you, spread ugly rumors about you, spit on you, think negatively of you, and treat you terribly. But, it’s not your fault the way they treat you. They hate you because of their OWN inner demons.  Knowing this, you need to let the ugliness of other people’s demons not get you down. 

Regardless of how people treat or think of you, you are AMAZING. You are worth all opportunities and love.

Fresh New Ways To Wear Floral

Fresh New Ways To Wear Floral 3/24/2017 0 Comments   Get your closet ready for an explosion of fresh floral designs this upcoming season as we leave behind the dull winter cold and enter into the bright spring sunshine (thank you Lord Jesus!). I know I need to do some spring cleaning on my own closet in order to get it ready for all the beautiful floral clothes I'm going to pack in there. It’s no secret that floral patterns have earned its way to become one of the best and most trending fashion statements this spring season thanks to the New York Fashion Week 2017 (plus spring = blooming flowers), and now it’s your time to invest in this beautiful trend. It doesn't matter if you prefer a bold edgy look or a more feminine simple look, there's a way to wear floral print for all types. You can find floral prints on dresses, skirts, tops, pants, shoes, and well everywhere! Below are some of my favorite looks on wearing florals in a fresh way.

Why It's Important To Burn The Sweats And Buy Real Pants

Burn them! For the love of all that is dear and holy, burn the dang sweat pants. I don't care if you have to shred or rip them as long as they disappear from the face of this planet.

"Why should I get rid of my yoga pants? They're comfortable, and I don't care what you think. You can get over it."

Well you have a point. They are comfortable, and I can get over it, but will you get over it when people don't give you the respect you deserve or you get rejected for that promotion because your employers saw you out in nude sweat pants.

It's not right, but it's how the world works. If you want that dream job, promotion, or prestige you're going to have to look the part. Dress up and put on a pair of real slacks.

Everyday.

Yeah, I mean everyday, and I even mean to Walmart. Look, I get it. Sweats are wonderful! I love wearing them. It's like wearing a cloud of  fluff on your legs, but it's not so fluff and cuddles when my colleagues or potential bosses see me pumping gas wearing oversize stained sweats.

Want to know another little secret? I actually feel amazing when I dress up. I can't tell you how many people I see frowning when they wear sweats (yeah I watch people. I'm weird). Their faces scream "I give up on life!" Now when I see people dressed up, like real slacks, they are smiling. They appear confident and ready to take on the world. Now it's not to say that that's how they actually feel, but I can't help but wonder if the way they're dressed has something to do with it.

What I am trying to say is just dress up and wear slacks. Try even for a week straight. No sweats period except for around your home. See how you feel, how your employers treat you. Have pride in yourself to know that you're more worthy than just a pair of stained up, oversize sweats. Have pride in how you look, stand up tall and proud. You are worth it.

6 Staple Items Every Woman Must Own

Fashion trends come and go but there are some items that survive through the age of time that is essential to pull a closet together. I put together a list of a six staple items that every woman needs to own in order for her wardrobe to be the very best and that can go with anything. I must warn you, these are items you don’t want to go without, and it's best to go with the highest quality for these items because you want these items to survive a long time.


1. Basic Neutral Tee: Soft, casual, and easy to layer on it’s no wonder why every woman needs to own a basic tee that is in a neutral color. Dress it up by adding a floral cardigan, stay casual by adding a leather vest, or keep it simple with a colorful accessory.


2. Dark Skinny Denim: There’s just something so sleek, neat, and stylish about a pair of dark skinny denim. They never wrinkle, you can dress it up or go casual, and it stands through the age of time. Dark skinny denim brings the outfit together in sophistication.

3. Neutral Colored Wallet Clutch: Wallet clutches are the best thing to happen since sliced bread. Why? Because a neutral color wallet clutch, especially a faux leather, adds classiness to any outfit for any event without the hassle of carrying a giant bag. You can carry your lipstick, important cards, money, license, and change.

4.Neutral Slip On Booties: I absolutely love neutral colored booties because they're perfect for any season and a great transition item. Dress them up with pretty sundress or wear casual with distressed denim and a graphic tee. Trust me, you'll love them.

5. Pearl Necklace Choker: Every wardrobe has to have a staple accessory piece. A single neutral band choker with a single pearl adds a classic touch to any outfit. Dressy or casual it's a great versatile piece.

6. Little Black Dress: Every woman has to HAVE a cutle little black dress. You can add heels and diamonds for that perfect date night or add a denim jacket and tennis shoes for a fun casual look.  

6 Spring Trends To Watch Out For

6 Spring Trends To Watch Out For3/14/2017 0 Comments ​Ditch those heavy winter clothes because Spring is just around the corner, as hard as it’s to believe, and I need to prepare you for all the new Spring fashion trends this upcoming season. Now I did some careful research to see what to expect this coming season as we leave behind the bitter cold, and I put together a short list of just SOME of the new spring trends (inspired by theNew York Fashion Week 2017) that you will find in stores. Check out the list below!​ 1. Graphic Tees Perfect to wear tucked in pink tulle skirts for a Sex and the City vibe or tied up with high waist denim.  2. Floral Patterns A fresh explosion of bright flowers on skirts, tops, dresses, kimonos, and many more! Whether you prefer an all sweet look or a more grungy tough vibe, floral prints are perfect for everybody. 3. Choker Necklaces The 90's chokers are back with a fresh new look! You can find them adorned with rhinestones, pearls, wrapping layers, semi-precious stones, suede, and many more. 4. Layered Necklaces A blend of dainty, chunky, long, and short necklaces layered together for a perfect blend of style. 5. Pocket Dresses What's better than a super comfortable, fashionable dress? A dress with pockets! So many possibilities... 6. Strappy Necklines This isn't your average basic top. Adding crisscross strappy lines on the neckline adds an original uniqueness to an otherwise simple top.  What is your favorite Spring trend this year? Leave a comment and let me know!  ​

10 Essentials To Pack For Spring Break

10 Essentials To Pack For Spring Break 3/11/2017 0 Comments   Spring break is here! Blooming trees, longer days, sunshine, and warmer weather.  My heart just can't! It's time for beaches, lakes, parties, road trips, campfires, and so many more. Aaaah! I'm just so excited. But first, we need to discuss that hassling topic. What do I bring for spring break without overloading my suitcase? I've pulled together some KEY essential items that you have to bring for your adventure. 1.Keds Shoes I cannot stress enough how important it is to have a good pair of walking shoes. Whether you are hiking through the mountains or sightseeing Hollywood, your feet will thank you when you wear a good pair of Keds shoes on. 2.Baseball Cap Protect your head and eyes from the sun while looking cute in a preppy baseball cap. I love wearing baseball caps on trips because I don't have to fuss with my hair. No one has time for that! 3.Wristlets Wallets Nothing is worse than handling and keeping up with a giant purse. I love wristlets because they're light, and they hold all my important cards and money I need during a trip. Trust me, when you are walking around a lot you don't need anything heavy. 4.Sun Screen Skin cancer isn't cool or pretty. Getting a beach tan isn't worth it. Your skin will thank you in the long run.Take the sun screen and APPLY IT! Your life is more important than looking tan. 5.Shorts  Okay, this is just common sense but still needs to be included. I have major brain farts when I'm rushing to pack so sometimes I just need a reminder. 6.Basic Top Leave your fancy ruffled tops at home because you won't wear them. Keep your tops basic and simple because you can throw them over swimsuits, add sheer shawls for a dressy night, or wear as is for comfort. Simplicity is key. 7.Maxi Dress  I love casual maxi dresses. They are so perfect to wear at the beach barefooted while sipping smoothies or dancing at the hottest tropical club. I personally love wearing mine over my swimsuit. I always feel like a Hawaiian goddess! 8.Heels Now this may seem contrary to what I said earlier, but do you think Keds shoes will look cute with that date night dress? Now don't wear your heels while hiking (kudos to you if you can) but wear them out for dancing and sipping fancy beach drinks. 9.Sheer Cardigans  These light, sheer cardigans are just beautiful to wear over your swimsuits, and they add a touch of sophistication to your basic tops. Perfect to wear while sightseeing or at the beach. 10.Swimsuit  Do I need to go into further detail. Tell us below in the comments what you HAVE to pack for spring break!

What To Do When You're In Your Mid 20's And Still Single

“Help me! I'm in my mid 20's, and I’m still single!”

​I understand your pain girl. If you are like me, you are entering the mid 20's all on your own in a society that still stigmatizes single adult women. But first, I need to give you a little advice.

Stop it! Just stop it!

Being single in your mid 20's is no tragedy. In fact, I would rather embrace my own life head on as a single lady than be with someone who isn’t right for me for the sake of not being alone. Trust me! Nothing feels more lonelier than being with someone who isn't right for you!
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I’m not going to lie though, it’s tough seeing all these happy, love-filled couples. But you know what? I love me! That’s right! And I need you to love you because you are amazing, beautiful, confident, and radiant all on your own. It doesn't matter if you are young or old, skinny or curvy, working in fast food or in law firm. You are beautiful and worthy on your own. 

You know what girl, forget about trying to nag a date on Tinder and Match (trust me he's probably creepy and a bum). Take yourself out on a date! Dress yourself up for you and go to that new restaurant you always wanted to go.  Surround yourself with awesome gal pals who encourage you to be your best because you are worth it. 

Comment below on what you love about yourself and why!

How Do I Create My Own Style?

How do I create my own style? Aren’t there rules and trends to go by?

I’m going to tell you guys a secret that most fashion industries won’t tell you. There are no rules.

What? What about all the in season trends and in style looks? Well that’s the thing. Somebody had to start that trend. Somebody had to go against the norm to create that latest fashion statement. 

Fashion is what you make it. Your style, your creativity, your uniqueness. It’s all this that creates the fashion. Not the latest trends, or the biggest styles on the runways. It’s all about you. What you make of it, what you choose to do with it. 

Do you really think Calvin Klein created his style based on the rules set by fashion magazines? Or what about Betsy Johnson or Lily Pulitzer? If the biggest fashion designers hadn’t gone against the norm then their beautiful lines wouldn’t be in the stores today. 

You do you. Sure, we can give you ideas, tips, a spark, but in the end you have to decide what you think is best for you. 

Own your style, own your creativity! Wear it boldly and confidently.